Is your perspective rooted in this?

Take One (perspective one):

I was climbing up a high rope element, harnessed up and clipped in, up in the trees this past weekend. It was a chilly but absolutely beautiful day. The sun was shining, the tree buds were just starting to open, the park was not busy because of the holiday weekend. It was the first time my youngest was big enough to climb. I was feeling full of energy, ready to enjoy the strength my new exercise routines had given me. And to top it all off, we were getting to share this fun experience with our cousins, so everyone had a climbing buddy! I was able to climb harder obstacles with ease and it felt great!

Take Two (perspective two):

I was climbing up a rope element, harnessed up and clipped in, up in the trees this past weekend. It was quite windy and I was a bit cold, wishing I had brought a hat or worn more layers. My phone dropped, even though I’ve carried it many times doing this; I felt embarrassed because they tell you to not bring it up on the safety video. My youngest was petrified and I almost had to carry him off the first course (which is hard when you’re both clipped in). And to top it all off, one of the zipline platforms was low and I slammed my shin at high speed, getting a cut and a bruise.

It's so easy to focus on the negative or the positive in a situation, right? The cup is half full or half empty, depending on what frame of mind you’re in.

Studies show people who see the positive side of life tend to live longer and be happier.

Here’s the thing: you must unburden your subconscious mind to own the positive as your reality. We all want to feel good, to feel joy. But I can attest, from my personal experience, it is very hard to allow joy into your life when you have belief systems that tell you feeling good isn’t OK.

You may have glimpses of joy but then you promptly bring yourself back down. Maybe you get in an argument or get a headache or fall and hurt yourself. 

Or my favorite story….flat tires. 

If you’ve done sessions with me, you may have heard the story of bike rides. My husband and I met mountain biking and have enjoyed biking for years. 

In the past few years, each time we managed to find good weather and an available weekend day to get the whole family biking, flat ties would show up to ‘sabotage’ the day. 

I’m talking two or three flats, not just one! Sometimes they would start showing up before we even left the house, other times after the ride started. This is a classic example of not being worthy of joy and the sabotage we can unknowingly create. 

It is needs to be clearly stated that no one would consciously choose to do this! 

This is subconscious, which is why cleaning out your subconscious mind is so powerful and can completely change your day-to-day life. 

So how can you start to change this? To start embracing joy? To see the positive?

One simple, effective way to get the ball rolling is to ‘lean into’ joy moments. If this is an issue for you, you may often distract yourself from feeling joy and not even realize you are doing it.

One way to start reprogramming your subconscious is to simply ‘lean into’ a moment that brings you joy. A beautiful sunrise, your pet or child being sweet, an experience that is fun or where you’re proud of yourself…take these moments and hold the positive emotion for 30 seconds or so. That’s all it takes to start helping your system heal its allergy to joy.

We are all worthy of joy. Joy is our birthright. Any belief otherwise is erroneous and not true. So the next time a joyous moment comes along, try to allow yourself to embrace it, to feel the emotion of joy for a few moments, and start to open up your ability to bring joy into your life.

It’s worth the effort!